Week 3 of posts to inspire you in your leadership journey and through the week.
Nibble their toast, and cool their tea with sighs,
Or else forget the purpose of the night,
Forget their tea — forget their appetite.
See with cross’d arms they sit — ah! happy crew,
The fire is going out and no one rings
For coals, and therefore no coals Betty brings.
A fly is in the milk-pot — must he die
By a humane society?”… (full version here)
John Keats, A Party of Lovers
Tips for Emerging Leaders
This week I started to record a brand spanking new podcast series on leadership titled not particularly creatively, but very aptly “tips for emerging leaders”. I was delighted to meet Carly Green who is the Human Resources Manager at the InterContinental Sanctuary Cove Resort in Queensland. Carly had some really practical tips about perceiving leadership, rising through the ranks and switching on. Check out the full podcast here [10:37] THANK YOU CARLY
When your opinion doesn’t matter
Opinions… everyone has ’em.
Each fortnight I do a radio interview about the township in which my office is located. Even though I spent my teenage years within that township I find very little to emotionally bond me to the area (I’m being polite, sure you hear me).
Often as the segment approaches I consider just saying the place is boring, uninspired or various other things I’ve considered, BUT then I remember the responsibility of the conscious leader.
Who would any of those statements serve? What could I or anyone for that matter gain in hearing that? I decided instead to build on my ‘opinion’ and at least make it an informed one. I’m finding in this process a tolerance for the place if not the early seeds of a new friendship. Each time an elderly person approaches me to say they heard me on the radio I’m pleased I kept my uninformed opinion to myself.
As a leader you never know who will be listening, and how they will understand what you say. Be careful of your opinions.
This week I’ve been much closer to the things that matter to me. Of course family and also creativity. It’s been such a delight to express creativity via writing, public speaking and also cooking. Every time I live my ‘what matters’ I feel a sense of happiness and contentment that makes life so much more enjoyable. What matters most to you? What are you doing about it this week?
This week I was speaking about collective impact. We explored the concept of starting at ‘what matters’ (rather than the presenting issue) and working from there. What Matters most to someone is a conversation starter, it builds rapport, it highlights passion, it points in the direction of potential action.
What Matters DOES matter.
After a 3.5 year hiatus on a rural block family and I are back in town and LOVING the village life. It’s a great irony that I thought I’d need to get the kids out of town to offer them a safe and happy upbringing (particularly given that our township rates in the top percentiles on ‘disadvantage’ in Australia).
I no longer believe that to be true. In fact, our town has wrapped around us and now friends can easily drop in, I can ride my pushie to the shops to get eggs and milk (so can the kids) and what we lose in terms of the open space and privacy our rural block gave us we gain in social life, backup help with the kids and walking buddies.
As an additional bonus my family has a long history with this community. As a non-Indigenous person I have no cultural context to describe this, let’s just say it feels like home…
What / where feels like home for you? How do you know that?
As I’ve mentioned August is alcohol free for me. Now as the third of five weekends in the month comes to a close I type away righteously with an enormous sense of clarity.
The additional health benefits I feel are almost outweighed by the pride I feel in being able to do it. Do you need to give something in your life a rest? Give it a little go, you’ll be surprised how it feels.
As we move through the month (37 of us have given up something in the August Adventure) I’m torn between recommendations about replacing the thing OR recreating new experiences, habits, rituals, opportunities. I’m trying both. More here
I’m not sure if it’s the sugar I’m missing or that I have more time and energy but geez there’s been a baking festiva going on in my house. My friend Karen-Louise suggested leafy greens may slow down the sugar craving – check out brunch this AM.
Intentions for the week ahead:
After some really heavy times (and my son telling me I was no longer any fun – Ouch!) I decided it was time to lighten up at least a little. So I did. And I’ve got to say that even though I had to fake it in the first few days it didn’t take long for my unconscious self to catch on.
I realised in the week that try as I might there are some things that are just beyond my control. I can panic and get upset about that OR stay on the up and focus on what’s within my reach.
August adventures: 37 of us have joined online to give up something for the month of August. 9 alcohol free days later I’ve navigated friends dropping over with a bottle of wine, some excellent specials and even discovering a 15 year old bottle of red in my unpacking (I decided it would probably taste like vinegar). I’m doing it ! And not only does my mind feel incredibly clear I feel really good about my willpower.
Kickstart energiser: Needing some support to move into action? This is the one for you. Join me from Tuesday 25 August. MORE HERE
Have a great week, stay in touch.
PS what does this post have to do with 20 flying pigs? It’s a simple note to myself about anything being possible, about the importance of reflection and taking the time to notice. It’s about writing for pleasure and bringing even more joy to work. Finally it’s about exploring beyond what is possible, challenging my (and your) beliefs and uniting change.